vay-kay-shun...

I'm flying out on Sunday, I haven't really been putting much thought into the trip, which isn't unusual as I'm typically a last minute kinda guy, but anyway, I'm doing laundry and having dinner right now, which will be my last "home cooked" meal until I get back from my trip. I'm done washing dishes is what I'm trying to say.

I'm starting to get excited, I have to pack and tomorrow do a little bit of shopping for small gifts to give to people. I also want to get some new tennies for myself, I was thinking GOLA or ONITSUKA TIGERS, turns out Onitsuka is owned by ASICS so why bother? Gola's it is! Green body with yellow details, cool color combo. I think I'm ok with socks, underwear, jeans and t-shirts, but I do need a nice warm jacket, and two outfits for going out to dinner/clubs. I really should makea list. Oh, back up battery for my camera, camera pouch, reading materials for the plane, Russian phrasebook. Yeah, I need a pen and paper for this shit.

I'm having a little bon voyage party too, not sure where yet, Dave suggested BAR NONE is the Marina but it's typically filled with douche-nozzles. I'm hoping for good music, pretty women and fun with my friends.

I read a pretty good statement the other day, my statement for 2009 was "perception is reality" which is something I still believe in but in 2010 my motto will be "work hard, dress well, travel" perfect...

the dynamics of the Friends With Benefits "relationship"...

There are 3 main components of the "FWB" interpersonal relationship---
1. It must always be about having FUN.
2. The sex must be GOOD.
3. There can be absolutely NO COMMITMENT.

This type of relationship, actually, now that I think about it I really don't think it can be called a relationship... how about arrangement? Anyway, this arrangement between two people is TEMPORARY, usually SHORTLIVED and DEVOID of any kind of involvement of FEELINGS.

If ANY of the 3 components are NOT adhered to, the arrangement will fall apart faster than you can text "what r u up 2? want 2 come over?"

Other factors involved in the collapse of the FWB are the possibilities of meeting someone else you'd rather have as your fuck buddy, the person would of course have to be; more fun, better in bed, totally non commital and, in this shallow world we live in, hotter. which could mean; younger, fitter, more educated, wealthier, better structure, etcetera than the person you are currently hookin' up with.

If you plan on giving the FWB arrangement a shot, please, make sure BOTH PARTIES are aware of the status. NEVER assume they know. This will ensure nobody gets hurt.

Remember; no future... no past... just now.

happy birthday to me...

today is my birthday, so when i woke up this morning i treated myself to hitting the snooze button on the alarm clock twice, i got out of bed at 7:11am. I took a shower, brushed my teeth, got dressed and put my lunch and snacks and sodas into my bag then headed out for the day. i stopped into the laundry room as i had left a load of wash in the washer and had to swap it into the dryer, now that i think about it it's still down there. i rode my vespa to work and got there in like 15 minutes. arsen called me to wish me a happy birthday. at noon i had lunch; green thai curry over jasmine rice with corn on the side, all left overs from last nights dinner, dessert was four Oreo double stuff cookies. close to the end of the day i went to test ride a bike, matt had to test ride one too, so we did the union/fillmore loop, we raced each other on the scooters from stop sign to stop sign, about a half mile from the shop i told matt; "last one back has a small penis!" i turned left and sped off... the wrong way on a one way street!!! it was hilarious. natalja called me at 2pm to wish me happy brthday, but i was a break and didn't have my phone on me. i finished out my day and rode home at 4:30pm, i saw a blind woman crossing the street in front of my building, after crossing the street, she turned and came back, i asked her if she need help finding a specific address, she laughed and told me she was fine. i came upstairs made myself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, and then i made another 'cause it was so damn good. i sipped on a soda then fired up the computor to see if there was any birthday wishes. one from audrey, one from my paula, one from lindsay and one from elizabeth. that's my 40th birthday so far. tonight, arsen, dave and myself are going out, i don't know where but we may stop in to cafe du nord since matt is working and can get me in on the list. i'll let you know how my evening goes. btw, forty feels a lot like 39.

relationship chemistry and the american dream...

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RELATIONSHIP CHEMISTRY---
Ever ask someone "Hey, are you still dating that girl? (or guy)" then they tell you "no, we didn't have any chemistry". then you think to yourself... "hmmmmm... the elusive "chemistry"". Well, what IS "chemistry"? It sounds scientific and therefor complex, but is it?

When I was a kid I thought I would understand what it was when I grew up, but I didn't. If you ask somebody, more than likely they will say it's something indescribable but when it's there you'll know it, which isn't much of an answer is it?

I've been in many relationships and, if you're a regular reader you'll know I am single. Being single isn't something that I consciously chose to be, believe me. So, why is it that none of my relationships stood the test of time? Chemistry?

Here's my take on it; chemistry is a mutual attraction between two people. A lack of chemistry is when one person or both people are not attracted to each other. Think of it as a nice way to tell someone you don't like them.

That's all it is.


THE AMERICAN DREAM---
Home ownership. We've been bombarded since birth to think that to own a home is what we're all here for. That your not really free or American until you own your piece of the pie. Personally, I think this is bullshit. I think it's a way for the government to generate revenue via home sales AND annual property taxes. I will make it my lifes work to ensure the I.R.S. gets as LITTLE of my money as possible. I know "real estate is a great investment" but, ask EVERYBODY you know that owns a home in the United States and ask them how much they have LOST in the past year.

Don't get me started on the stock market.